Etiquette can be confusing
Etiquette rules can be a tricky business. They’re far less cut-and-dry than, say, laws, and yet some are often taken just as seriously. There are plenty of etiquette rules we should never have abandoned, and even some etiquette rules that experts don’t follow anymore. Oh, and there are plenty of little rules that you’ve likely never even heard of, or maybe heard once but never took seriously, that you’re probably breaking all the time. After all, even Emily Post had her not-so-polite moments.
Expecting your hostess gift to be opened
You probably already know that you should bring a gift to a party or gathering when someone is hosting you, in exchange for their hospitality. But what’s a bit more surprising is the fact that you really shouldn’t be expecting to partake in it yourself. For instance, “bringing a bottle of wine as a hostess gift and then expecting it to be opened during the party because it’s your favourite vintage,” explains etiquette expert Lisa Grotts. “It’s a gift – not a gift to yourself!” The hostess gift, she maintains, is to be enjoyed by the hostess (or host, of course). If you’re receiving a gift, it’s also important to write a heartfelt thank you note so you can express your gratitude.
Not giving an RSVP
In our 21st-century world of casual gatherings – think Facebook invites and text chains – you might think it’s okay to just let your RSVP slide if you can’t make it. But no – it’s still disrespectful! “RSVPs are for accepts and regrets,” Grotts says. “Never leave your host hanging.”