10. You’re not the only one

Millions of women can’t control that “gotta go” feeling (urge incontinence) or leak during exercise or when they sneeze or cough (stress incontinence) and this risk increases after menopause.
“It’s common but not normal, and any leaking of urine should be evaluated and treated,” Dr. Moore says.
11. Your menopause symptoms could be a relationship issue

Women who are emotionally abused by a spouse or partner may suffer from more menopausal symptoms than their counterparts in healthier relationships.
Specifically, one in five women in the study of more than 2,000 women at mid-life and older had suffered emotional abuse by a current or former partner; these women had 50 percent higher odds of night sweats and 60 percent higher odds of painful sex.
“The data shows that experience of domestic violence and emotional abuse, sexual assault and clinically significant PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) symptoms are common, and may affect women’s health across the lifespan,” says author Carolyn Gibson, PhD, a clinical research psychologist affiliated with the University of California at San Francisco’s Department of Psychiatry.
How to leave an abusive relationship: here are 20 expert tips.
12. The triple threat is real

Smoking, diabetes and high blood pressure are all bad for the heart, but they may be even worse for women’s hearts, new research shows.
Of 472,000 Britons aged 40 to 69, women experienced the highest increase in heart attack risk – though both sexes suffered.
Specifically, male smokers had more than twice the risk of heart attack than men who had never smoked, and women smokers had more than three times the risk of heart attack compared to never-smokers.
This same trend was seen with high blood pressure and diabetes. Good news though; here’s what happens to your body as soon as you quit smoking.