They share their terrible childhood on the first date

They share their terrible childhood on the first date
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Don’t underestimate the power of emotional love bombing. Quiet love bombers specialise in making you feel emotionally enmeshed with them. One way to do that is to share personal, private things very early in the relationship. You do want to learn about your partner’s past experiences, but real intimacy requires trust which requires time.

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Their acts of love are intrusive

Their acts of love are intrusive
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A huge bouquet of flowers delivered to your job. Chocolates and teddy bears on your front porch. Loud declarations of love in a crowded restaurant. “A love bomber wants to be in every part of your life and a lot of their grand gestures will often intrude into your personal spaces,” Durvasula says.

They propose on the third date

They propose on the third date
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Love bombers want to tie you to them in as many ways as possible. “A rapid courtship – like pushing to move in or get married very quickly – is a classic sign of love bombing,” Johnson says.

They know everything about you, but you know little about them

They know everything about you, but you know little about them
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One of the things many people say about being love-bombed is that they’ve never felt so truly seen or heard by another human being. “This is a very human need that abusers will use against you,” Durvasula says. “They may ask you a lot of very intense questions about yourself, but it’s so they can use that information to manipulate you.”

One sign of this is if you’ve told them everything about you, but you realise you know relatively little about them.

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They are your perfect soul mate

They are your perfect soul mate
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Conversely, a love bomber may give you what feels like a lot of information about themselves, but it matches you perfectly. A little too perfectly. They have your same taste in movies, the same love of video games, the same fear of deep water, and the same dream of building a house out of cheese in rural Switzerland.

The truth is that they aren’t just like you, they’re just very good at mirroring you and pretending to be exactly the person you want, Johnson says. Once you’ve been hooked, you’ll begin to see their true colours.

You feel like you owe them

You feel like you owe them
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One reason love bombers make such grand gestures is to make you feel indebted to them. This may make you more willing to overlook inconsistencies, or excuse lies or bad behaviour, Johnson says. It may make you feel like you have to match their level of “love” even if you’re not ready for that.

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They’re always the victim

They’re always the victim
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The love-bombing phase is when love bombers are their most charming. But there will likely be a few red flags that sneak through if you’re paying attention. For instance, pay close attention to how they talk about other people in their life, particularly their exes, Johnson says. If all of their exes are “crazy,” if all of their family members “hate” them, if they have no close friends – all of these are red flags you may be involved with a love bomber.

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