As a control freak, you must find a small task, any task, to delegate. It will not be easy, and you will be tempted to take over control, but practising delegation will help prove to yourself that yes, someone else CAN do this task, and you should trust them enough to let them. Put someone else in charge of a minuscule task first, even emptying the dishwasher or making photocopies; then work your way up to bigger ones.
Try something new
Control freaks are often afraid of failure, and that fear keeps them from having valuable learning experiences. While free spirits tend to act without thinking, the control freak goes to the other extreme and avoids taking small risks. Try a new food. Listen to a different kind of music. Wear a different style that you’ve never tried. If you’re hesitant, ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen?”
Challenge your perceptions
Your need to control may come from fear of catastrophe: If you sleep in and are late for work, you’ll be fired. If you don’t mail the package yourself, it won’t arrive and disaster will occur. So stop for a moment and ask yourself honestly, “What will happen if I miss my alarm one time?” Will you lose your job, or will your supervisor merely ask you to be more careful? Or more likely, if you’ve never been late, no one will even notice. By taking an extra moment to challenge your own exaggerated thinking – a phenomenon in psychology called “catastrophising” – you can resolve a number of perceived concerns and feel less tense about getting everything exactly right all the time.