With (super-fun!) filters on Snapchat, you might pass time or kill boredom by taking quick shots with puppy ears or hearts around your noggin. While sending those funny photos to your friends that disappear within five seconds is probably okay, psychologist Sarah Schewitz, PsyD, says that if you’re posting these me-and-only-me photos on Facebook or Twitter, you might give people the idea that you’re full of yourself. “While selfies have become more common, there is a time and a place for them. It’s perfectly appropriate for you to have a picture of you by yourself as your profile photo. However, if every single picture you are posting on social media (or even if more than half of the pictures you post) are of you, by yourself, looking pretty or checking out your abs in the mirror, you are definitely going to come across as conceited,” she says. “There is so much more to you than just a pretty face or rock hard abs. Show us that too!”
Your tone matters (and shows)
It’s not always easy to read between the thin lines of text on Facebook or to express how you really feel (with proper punctuation) in 140 characters. Because of this, commenting can be tricky, as you can inadvertently come across as snippy just by using a period instead of an exclamation mark. “People can get a sense of your personality and how you treat others by the way that you phrased your comments. Are you kind and positive or rude and demeaning when you comment?” Schewitz says. One way to change your social media tone is to say it out loud first, before you type it out and make it public, “I have seen a trend of people being much more cruel and rude over social media than they ever would be in person. This can give us a view of someone that is not actually accurate,” Schewitz notes.
You reveal your values
Whatever you post – or comment – can give a stranger a glimpse into what you fundamentally believe in. Though it’s usually okay in a private account, if you’re posting very opinionated articles on LinkedIn, you may push away possible job opportunities. “Based on your comments, a viewer can learn a lot about your beliefs and values. People can tell what you find entertaining and what you find frustrating,” Schewitz explains.