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Can you really fall in love with anyone?
Can you really fall in love with anyone?
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In a 1997 SUNY Stony Brook study, psychologist Arthur Aron explored whether intimacy between two perfect strangers could be accelerated by having them ask each other the 36 personal questions below.

Since Dr. Aron created the quiz, he’s even seen it rekindle the romance in long-term relationships. “When you’re first in a romantic relationship, there’s an intense excitement, but then you grow used to each other,” Dr. Aron told Berkeley News. “If you do something new and challenging, that reminds you of how exciting it can be with your partner, it makes your relationship better.”

These 36 questions that lead to love take about 45 minutes to complete, with each becoming increasingly personal and intense. Dr. Aron and his wife Elaine, a psychologist who also studies love and relationships, have also used the quiz to bond with couple friends (platonically) over dinner dates.

Question 1
Question 1
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Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

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Question 3
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Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

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Question 4
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What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

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Question 5
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When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

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Question 6
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If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

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Question 7
Question 7
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Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

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Question 8
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Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Question 9
Question 9
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For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

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Question 10
Question 10
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If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

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Question 11
Question 11
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Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

Question 12
Question 12
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If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Of all the 36 questions that lead to love, this one is one of our favourites to think about!

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Question 13
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If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

Question 14
Question 14
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Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

Question 15
Question 15
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What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Question 16
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Question 17
Question 17
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What is your most treasured memory?

Question 18
Question 18
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What is your most terrible memory?

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Question 19
Question 19
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If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Question 20
Question 20
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What does friendship mean to you?

Question 21
Question 21
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What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Question 22
Question 22
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Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

Question 23
Question 23
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How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

Question 24
Question 24
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How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Question 25
Question 25
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Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling …”

Question 26
Question 26
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Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …” Here’s some more happy marriage advice every couple should know.

Question 2
Question 2
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If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

Question 28
Question 28
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Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Question 29
Question 29
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Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

Question 30
Question 30
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When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Question 31
Question 31
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Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

Question 32
Question 32
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What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Question 33
Question 33
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If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Question 34
Question 34
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Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why? Listen to this marriage advice from divorced people.

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Question 35
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Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Question 36
Question 36
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Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

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Source: RD.com

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