Someone you know could be suffering from domestic violence
Domestic violence is far more common than most of us realize—about 30 per cent of women have experienced domestic abuse, on average, according to the World Health Organization. Men can also be victims: About one in nine men are abused. For nearly all relationships in which domestic violence occurs, the abuse can remain hidden until later in the relationship. “It is not uncommon for a victim to confide that he or she ‘woke up one day’ to realize—with deep embarrassment and shame—that he or she was in the midst of an abusive relationship,” explains Dr Carla Manly, a clinical psychologist and author of Joy from Fear. The warning signs of domestic violence, however, can appear early on in a relationship—sometimes even from the start.
Your partner forces you into decisions without regard for your feelings
This type of behaviour, be it forcing you to move in together prematurely or get married before you’re ready, can signal the potential for an abusive relationship, according to psychologist Kendra Kubala. “The abusive partner may cause the other partner to feel guilty or ungrateful for asking questions or asking to slow the pace of the relationship,” she says.
Your partner’s alarmingly controlling
Controlling or overprotective behaviour from one partner is a reliable indicator that a relationship could turn abusive. If your partner asks you where you go, starts timing your absence from the house, or inquiries about your whereabouts during the day, he or she may some issues with control and may be insecure, warns Rudi Rahbar, a clinical psychologist who specializes in couples and families.