Struggling to keep on top of those New Year’s resolutions? Aren’t we all. These tips should help keep you on track if you set the bar too high.
1. Set attainable resolutions
The first step to achieving your resolution is to set a goal you can actually reach.
While a lot of people who make New Year’s resolutions generally find them hard to keep, those who are successful make reasonable ones,” says Deborah Serani, PsyD, author of Depression in Later Life.
“Unrealistic resolutions set you up for failure.”
For example, instead of vowing to get supermodel skinny, set a plan to help you get to a healthier weight.
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2. Change one thing at a time
Once you start reassessing your life, you’ll probably get overwhelmed thinking about all the ways you think you should change.
“Cutting too many things at once may backfire,” says Frank Lipman, MD, bestselling author and founder of Be Well and the Eleven Eleven Wellness Centre in New York City.
Instead, slow down, and pick one thing to focus on first.
“Aiming for one change at a time is what brings the gold,” Dr. Serani says.
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3. Be specific about your goal
One of the sneaky ways you’re sabotaging your own New Year’s resolutions is by being too general.
“So, once you’ve set your goal of, let’s say, losing weight, be specific,” Dr. Serani says.
“How are you going to lose the weight? You could say, ‘I’m going to join a gym and get into shape,’ but it would be better to say, ‘I’ll get to the gym two times a week.’”
She advises setting goals that are SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound) to help you stick to your plan.
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