Kissing a woman’s hand as a greeting
Although many see obviously gendered displays as cringe-worthy, there are some holdouts that still think that acts previously considered good manners – like kissing a woman’s hand or pulling a handshake in for a hug – are simply them ‘acting like a gentleman’. Stop it, Lipstein says. “There should be no difference in how one greets different genders in a professional setting,” he explains. Also, steer clear of doing things that may be perceived as too intimate for a first introduction, like grasping their hands with your second hand, touching their arm or shoulder, or hugging them, he says.
Taking your neighbour’s wine glass at the table
Cutlery, napkins, bread plates, and glasses are not up for grabs at the dining table in a restaurant, Lipstein says. “Knowing how a dining table is set and what belongs to you vs your neighbour goes a long way in making a good impression,” he says. If you do find you’ve accidentally taken someone’s item, flag down a waiter and ask for a replacement.
Drinking to your own toast
If you’re being toasted, then you’re the one being honoured or celebrated – so let people celebrate you, Lipstein says. It’s a very common mistake to raise your own glass and then drink out of it with the others but resist the urge. “If you are being toasted at a dinner, you do not drink to your own toast,” he explains.