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91 02 Count Your Blessings, Not the Screen Be profoundly grateful for what you have. Do not focus on what is missing from your life but pour your energy into appreciating what is already there. Don’t spend your precious time scrolling through Facebook and social media, comparing yourself to others and looking at everything they have. Comparison is the fastest thief of joy, and a curated screen will never match the wealth of a grateful heart. Learn to Love the Skin You’re In I wish I hadn’t spent decades wishing away my flaws. If I could go back, I’d tell myself to stop picking apart the mirror and simply learn to love the body and mind I was given: bumps, lumps, wrinkles, cellulite, and all. For years, I secretly wished I possessed a massive vocabulary, or that I was just as traditionally brainy as my brother. I’d beat myself up over not having some sky-high IQ of 140. But look at what I do have: I have big, brown, perfectly working eyes that take in the beauty of the world, and ears that clearly hear the laughter of loved ones. I might not be a human dictionary, but I have a beautifully creative mind: a mind that can think on its feet, connect with people, and brilliantly problem-solve its way through any challenge life throws down. Your unique package is exactly what makes you impact the world, so embrace it all. LOOKING BACK ON IT ALL, I can hon- estly say I have deeply loved the jour- ney. Every single twist, turn, bump, and detour has brought me right here to this milestone. I might be 58 today but make no mistake: there is a tremen- dous amount of life, fire, and laughter left in me yet. In so many ways, I am healthier, wiser, and happier right now than I ever was in my frantic twenties or my busy forties. I’ve stopped rushing through the days and finally learned how to stand still in them. I look aroundmy life today and I am overwhelmed with appreciation for everything I have: the roof over my head, the deep roots of my family, the enduring warmth of lifelong friends, and the unconditional love waiting for me at the front door. So, to my 25-year-old self in that brand-new brown tailored suit: don’t worry so much. You’re going to do just fine. And to you, reading this right now: look in the mirror, smile at the lines time has gifted you, and remember that the best chapters of your story are still waiting to be written. Turn the page with a clear mind and a grateful heart, and let’s see what beautiful adventures tomorrow brings. My Story readersdigest.co.nz 17