7 Habits of Successful Sexual Beings

HealthSmart pinpoints these simple ways partners can boost their confidence and satisfaction with each other, and then relax and enjoy what happens next

A common reason for lack of sexual confidence is low self-esteem and a lack of comfort with one’s own body. Surprising numbers of men and women also report less-than-satisfactory past sexual experiences.

Some women associate sex with pain (research shows one in five Australian women have been forced or frightened into doing something sexually that they did not want to do), while men typically feel pressure to maintain an erection longer than is in fact common.

Therapists suggest that we remind ourselves to relax, to have fun… and to speak up!

A simple "Do you like it when I do this?"or "Hmmm, yes, more of that please…"can go a long way to creating the right ambience for intimacy. Remember that it’s not all about consummation, it’s also all about touching, caressing and embracing. 

"Kissing,"says therapist Serena Cauchi, "may be far more intimate than penetration. That may be why sex workers tend not to do it."